Before you dive into the world of BDSM play, it is important to become familiar with all of the terms and some of the bondage accessories that you will encounter. This glossary of terms is intended to help you navigate through your kinky journey with a quick guide to what you need to know.
It’s that time of year again! Where you get a little trim all over your house and you’re bursting with excitement about the season of giving. If you’re really lucky, you’re surrounded by lots of ho ho ho’s in your life. To help you get the most from your holiday season, we’ve made you a kinky gift guide to help make you merry. Happy holidays to all, and to all a very VERY good night!
So you’ve been invited to a munch and you know that you’re being vetted for a private play party, but the dungeon master just checked you for gawking at a scene without consent and there’s no alcohol to soothe your nerves. What is even happening? Not only are you just barely familiar with those words, but you’ve been there for 10 minutes and you’re already overwhelmed. What are the rules? What do you do? What should you not do? Preparation is key, and we’re here to help.
Here’s the thing. You could type out “Hi. Can I sext you?” which directly asks for consent, but doesn’t have enough of the magic that makes it the “best sexting ever”. Just like any other form of flirting, a little verbal cat and mouse goes a long way. For one thing, know who you’re sexting and what they’re doing. Some rando you met on SwipeRight.app might be in the middle doing something that is not sexting friendly. However, that cutie from the bar a coupla months ago that you keep in touch with might be a better choice. If you know she has lunch with her grandma every Sunday, maybe that’s not the right time. We don’t kink shame, but she just might not be into reading how you want to make her pussy drip while her grandmother describes the last mammogram she endured. All that to say, timing is everything and that’s hard to gauge when you don’t know who you’re dealing with.
A foot fetish is when feet turn you on and you find release (read: pleasure) in feet. That can play out in a number of ways. Some people like the feet themselves, while others like adornments like jewelry, pantyhose, shoes, or toenail polish. There are foot fetishists that get into the scented aroma of le feet. They like how feet smell after a long day of squishing around in shoes. Some even like the smell of socks worn day after day, or gym shoes. Foot kinksters sometimes get off on the sensory play from rubbing or tickling feet. This can also include rubbing genitals on feet. Even those without a foot fetish, in particular, have sucked a toe or two, or had it done. Because let’s be honest: feet are sexy.
If the only thing dripping is your partner – and let’s not get it twisted because that’s a good thing – you might want to step your sex game up. Add a little heat to your inner freak and check out candle wax play. And yes, it’s a step into the world of BDSM kink.
