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Advanced Bondage Techniques to Try

Advanced Bondage Techniques to Try

Bondage isn’t just about tying up a partner and having your way with them. Although, certainly, that part can definitely be gratifying for sure — bondage play offers couples the opportunity to indulge in so much more sensual satisfaction.

Those that are new to BDSM might be quick to assume that once they’ve chosen their role of dominant or submissive that’s all there is to it. This can get tiresome for both participants if their true desire is to discover new methods for stimulation.

In order to get the most out of your bondage play experience, it’s important to open yourself up to a wider definition of bondage play — one that incorporates all five senses, as well as the use of kinky accessories. Focus on certain themes in your bondage play to enhance BDSM with a multisensory experience.

Bondage Technique No.1: Dominant and submissive play

While someone in a dominant role has the option of using a submissive as their sexual plaything as the sub is bound and powerless, that isn’t the only way that bondage play can be pleasurable. It can be extremely satisfying to be the one in control of all the action, however it’s also a great opportunity to teach your submissive something new. A captive audience has all attention on you so take this opportunity to teach a new lesson in pleasure.

Bondage Technique No.2: Be the teacher

As the dominant, turn your attention away from the submissive and onto yourself. Today’s lesson will be all about how to pleasure you, and it’s up to you to teach your student correctly.

Put on a full-on masturbation show for your submissive and feel free to use your favorite toys and accessories to encourage your partner to incorporate them into your couple's play. As you’re pleasuring yourself, tell your partner exactly what you're doing, where you like to be touched and how. Be descriptive as your explicitly explain to your partner what you like.

This will be sure to drive your partner wild with desire — however, as the submissive, they are here to learn! So the only way they’ll get to get their hands on you is if and when they learn how to correctly handle you.

Bondage Technique No.3: Get into position

Although using bondage to restrict a partner’s movement can be kinky in its own right, bondage play can also make it easier to explore positions that you may have thought were too uncomfortable to try.

Items like Lux Fetish’s Bedspeaders, Expandable Spreader Bar or the Position Pal help to strap in a willing partner while also increasing their mobility and support while in positions that are typically considered uncomfortable. While items such as the Lux Fetish Position Pal provides support with a strap that connects ankle cuffs to an adjustable neck strap, the Expandable Spreader Bar separates the legs further while the bar can be maneuvered to the perfect position by either partner.

Bondage Technique No.4: Oral training

A dominant and submissive experience can also be a good opportunity to teach someone how to perform oral sex to your liking. A submissive can be easily taught your preferred method for oral pleasure with the help of some restraints and instructions from you.

Once your submissive has been cuffed up, make them get down on their knees and orally please you. As the dominant, you can school your submissive on giving good oral by coaching them through the action. Tell your submissive how to move, where to touch and let them know if they’re doing a good job.

Bondage Technique No.5: Sensory Play

Sensory play involves the limiting of sight, sound, touch, taste and hearing. Sensory play can serve as a slow build-up to foreplay by experimenting with stimulation of all of the senses.

This kind of couples play complements bondage because it serves to build excitement during intimacy as you deprive your partner of their natural senses.
Binding a partner’s wrists and ankles are only part of the fun — for a truly satisfying sensory play experience, a blindfold eliminates the important sense of sight and opens up your imagination to kinky new opportunities.

Bondage Technique No.6: Temperature Play

Temperature play can excite the skin with the sensation of heat or cold. With the aid of a blindfold to prevent your partner for seeing what’s touching their skin, and use household items like an ice cube to excite your partner with its cool sensation. Alternatively, a massage oil candle can provide hot wax that will excite your partner with its warm feel.

Glass sex toys are also perfect for temperature play. Easily heated or cooled in water, a glass pleasure product retains its temperature, which can then be applied anywhere on (or in) the body.

Bondage Technique No.7: Pleasure and pain

Begin by pleasing your partner and then introduce some pain into your play. Switch back to the pleasure in order to increase the release of adrenaline and dopamine into the blood stream to create a feel of a natural high. Pain also makes nerve endings become more alert and sensitive, which also builds pleasurable feels.

BDSM accessories like a flogger, tickler or paddle offer different sensations that complement each other with pleasure and pain A tickler can be used to provide soothing or teasing sensations — which if titillating enough, can be torture by itself without any pain as your partner is left craving your touch. A paddle and flogger will provide a more painful type of sweet pleasure.

Bondage Technique No.8: Torture Play

An advanced type of bondage play involves a dominant denying orgasm to their submissive. This is done by taking them right to the point of orgasm and then stopping. Dominant partners can play alongside the submissive, controlling their own sexual arousal along with their bound partner. The point of this type of torture play is to build the intensity of sexual frustration so that the orgasm is more intense.

It’s essential for partners to maintain communication so that the bound partner can convey their level of sexual arousal to the dominant that is controlling the act. As the dominant, you can bring your submissive to the point of orgasm two or three times before you finally allow them to release.

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